What would you say is the most boring job in the world? A survey asked this very question of a large group of people, who most frequently answered, "toll collector".
Recently I was in a car with several friends waiting to pay a toll at the Chicago airport. The line seemed to be moving rather slowly; I assumed the delay had something to do with security. When we finally arrived at the booth, we found a handsome Italian man with thick gray hair and sparkling eyes.
As he handed us our change, he leaned over and enthusiastically sang us several verses of "La Traviata" -- and he was really good! We thanked him, smiled, and went on our way with a little more color in our cheeks.
Many years ago my mentor told me, "Take what'cha got and make what'cha want." If ever anyone has ever put this principle into action, it is that toll collector! He has taken a potentially dreary and chilly tollbooth and transformed it into an opera hall! I'm sure the people who pass through his booth are the happiest in that airport.
Changing Our Lives for the Better
We all want to change our lives for the better. The question is, how?
There are two ways you can change your life: (1) Change your conditions; and (2) Change your mind. Sometimes you can change your conditions. Always you can change your mind. Ultimately, mastering your mind yields far more success and reward than rearranging conditions.
Perhaps you have heard about the fellow who was losing coins out of a hole in his pocket, so he went out and got a second job to replace the coins. He didn't realize how much more helpful it would have been to simply sew the hole!
I heard about a man who was walking across a bridge when he saw a fellow fishing from the bank of the river. The fisherman caught a small fish and tossed it into a small bucket. Then he caught a large fish and cast it back into the river. The onlooker kept watching and saw that the fisherman kept all the small fish but rejected all the large ones. Curious, he went down to the riverbank and asked, "Why do you keep only the small fish?"
"It's simple," answered the fisherman. "I have this frying pan here that's about nine inches wide. Only the smaller fish fit in the frying pan, so they're the ones I keep."
Missing Out On The Bigger Fish
The frying pan, in this story, represents our mind and the beliefs we hold. If you allow into your life only the things that match your current beliefs, the world you live in will be only as large as those beliefs -- but then you miss out on lots of bigger fish!
Instead of limiting life to your old frying pan, get a bigger one and embrace all that life has to offer. You can go to the ocean with a thimble, a cup, or a tanker, and you will come back with a volume of water equal to the size of the receptacle you bring. So bring a big one!
My friend Drake is a landscaper who had numerous small accounts. One day one of his customers, a wealthy man with a large estate, invited Drake to work on his property full time. "What is your dream of how good this job could be?" the owner asked Drake.
Drake told him he would have to think about it. He went home and wrote down all the aspects he could picture for his ideal job. A week later Drake revisited his notes and realized that what he had written did not represent his entire dream. So he expanded the salary, equipment, and working conditions. Several weeks later Drake came back to his written vision and realized it still wasn't big enough.
This process went on for three months, with Drake's dream job continually expanding on paper. Finally he felt that what he had written was big enough to match what was in his heart and mind. He took the paper to his prospective employer and showed it to him. The fellow read the paper, thought for a moment, and answered, "Sounds good to me." Now Drake is living his dream job. He took what he had and made what he wanted.
Taking What You Have and Making What You Want
The key to taking what you have and making what you want is to reframe. Find a way to look at every experience so it empowers you. After the great Argentinean golfer Robert De Vincenzo won a tournament, he received his check and began walking to his car in the parking lot. There he was approached by a young woman who told him that her child was seriously ill, near death. She did not know how she could pay the doctor's bills and hospital expenses. De Vincenzo was so touched by her story that he endorsed his winning check and pressed it into her hands with the loving wish, "Make some good days for the baby."
A few days later a golf official told him, "That woman you met in the parking lot is a phony. She has no sick baby. She's not even married. She fleeced you, my friend."
"You mean there is no baby who is dying?" asked De Vincenzo. "That's right," answered the official. "Well," De Vincenzo responded, "That's the best news I've heard all week."
I wish you a life of news that is good because you choose to find it, and a wish list that is so magnificent the universe has no choice but to fill it.
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Mr. Everit's Secret: What I Learned from the World's Richest Man
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Alan Cohen is the author of the bestselling A Course in Miracles Made Easy and the inspirational book, Soul and Destiny. The Coaching Room offers Live Coaching online with Alan, Thursdays, 11 am Pacific time,
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